On instagram, we asked what you want us to talk about on an upcoming mental health check, and we took your responses. (You should follow us on IG btw, just sayin’.)

From mrs123wife, “What’s your go-to method for getting through the ‘I’m coasting through life’ moments?”

  1. Phewwwwww. I feel like this could be a whole episode on it’s own. We’ve all been there, I feel like… you’re comfortable, but you’re *too* comfortable. But even when you know you’re stuck in a rut, you still can’t seem to get out… the good news is, you can. And we are gonna discuss a few ways you can approach it.
    • I read an article on Medium not too long ago and this quote stuck out in my brain when you asked this question… “There is never a perfect time… but ironically enough; it is always the right time to make a change, take a risk, and get out of your comfort zone.”
      • When you force yourself to put yourself out there and grow, you’re betting on yourself. How? Because you’re making an attempt to change… more often than not, that’s going to result in success, instead of failure. And if you just stay where you are, you’re automatically resigning to the side of failure. Don’t be a do-nothing bitch. 🙂
      • It can be scary and weird to explore uncharted territory, but let me tell you, it’s so fucking rewarding. Nothing feels better than knowing that you did a hard thing, the cherry on top is that you put your whole ass into it and you gave everything you had.
      • Another thing to consider is this: you don’t know until you try. How can you? Like, I didn’t know until I actually tried to run how far I could go or to what limit I could push myself. I always considered myself not a runner, I always told myself I hated running… because I had never even tried.
  2. Set goals. We talk about goals an awful lot. 
    • Make a plan, break it down into smaller easier to accomplish chunks, and do the damn thing. Your snowman starts somewhere, start rolling those flakes to make a ball. 
      • Make deadlines for yourself. This funny thing happens when you are forced to plan your schedule, you actually do the shit. If you can make 2 hours to watch Hulu or Netflix; you can find time to read, write, or whatever.
    • It’s gonna take effort, but it’s so worth it. When you finally get off auto-pilot, and start doing the shit that feeds your soul again, it feels so so good. And honestly, convincing yourself is the hardest part. Know that you can do difficult things that you haven’t ever done before. DOING said thing is an accomplishment!

THE MOTIVATION THING

  1. Ahhhh, motivation. Motivation has morphed into this thing where I feel like a lot of folks want to make it tangible. It isn’t tangible. You can’t touch it. It is a desire to reach a goal. Wishing for something to happen doesn’t get us super far as human beings. Being that motivation is a desire, we should know by now that both of those words, and the meaning of them, are fleeting.
    • I just saw one of our mutuals on tiktok talk about discipline in a way that I hadn’t considered before: discipline can have a negative connotation. Discipline can be interpreted as depriving oneself to reach a goal. I had never thought of it that way before.
    • We bring this up because we have talked about discipline before. What we are really meaning when we talk about discipline are creating HABITS. Creating routines that you will stick to consistently over the long haul.
  2. The shit thing about habits, especially morphing poor ones into healthier ones, is that it’s super easy to fall back into old habits. Your brain is still aware of them. When you swap poor habits for healthier ones, your brain doesn’t just simply forget about and discard the old habit. 
    • We talked about this in great detail in episode 21, Creating Healthy Habits. To shift your habits, you have to change the reward. What the hell am I talking about? The reward you get for doing something is how most habits are formed. Working out? Sweets? etc the reward is that it ignites the pleasure center in your brain. That’s it, that’s the reward (in terms of your brain) 
    • Let’s not forget that it does take time for habits to form, and that there aren’t any quick fixes when it comes to nutrition and fitness. You have to do things over a period of time for them to become your habit. Like, 4-6 weeks a period of time. If you can get to that bench mark, it becomes a hell of a lot easier to keep doing that thing because it begins becoming WHAT YOU DO
    • To reference back to our question from IG, this is another step in that process. To give an example of myself, I’ve been in and out of the gym for a long time now. Only when I convinced myself that I needed to go on the days I didn’t want to, and if I REALLY didn’t want to, at the very least going for a walk around the block, did it start to just become the thing I do. I know what works for me, and when I stray from that, it’s SUPER super easy to fall back onto the excuse train. 
  3. Don’t ever forget that you know yourself better than anyone else on this fucking planet, so sometimes, you’re going to have to call yourself on your own bullshit. (We also have an entire episode on that) So when you don’t *want* to, do it anyway. Unless of course you’re sick or injured, which is obviously a completely different thing than what we’re talking about here.

HEY. YOU. YOU’RE A BADASS.

  1. We wanted to hype y’all up on today’s episode. We’ve said it before, we’ll say it again… don’t be afraid to do difficult things. 

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  1. I have to tell you I just found you ladies & im in love with your podcast!! I feel especially talking about mental health & bodies being healthy , actually everything & im grateful I found you ladies !!! Thank you- thank you- thank you

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